Well we finally got to meet with the psyciatrist this week. They have agreed with the theropist's thoughts of ADHD, and added a possible diagnosis of Asperger's to that. You might be thinking... "How is she going to deal with that? Poor thing just one more thing added to the stresses she is already going through..." but you know what? it seems a little easier now... I know that there is a reason for the behaviors... and in turn I know there is a good likelyhood that I also have one or both of these issues myself (everything I read I see myself in a lot) At first I just kept thinking great...two more "lables" to put on him, but the more I see myself in the Asperger's esspecially, the more I think how "normal" I can be, and know that not ALL of
Robert's problems are just him being a BRAT :). And maybe not all of the things I did was because I was a BRAT... that thought helps a lot... So I am going to take this and run with all the information I can find and try and help Robert come up coping mechanisims to help him deal with having to be arround other people now and then. Like the ones I developed over the years.... sometimes it was just a matter of "faking" it (and no I don't mean faking "that".... :P) I mean pasting a smile on when I don't feel like smiling, dealing with changes in a more graceful maner than I did when I was a kid. If I can get to the point where I am almost "normal" (yeah I know... me normal? when was that :P) and deal with most things in life... get over the fears I have and do things that I HATE doing... calling people on the phone. I would much rather email, text, or chat online with someone instead of having to make a phone call... and there are a few things that that just doesn't work with (can't make dr appoinments online... ) I don't mind answering the phone, but I don't like having to be the one to initiate the call. or return calls either. more than likely if I do have it (which I'll probably never know 100% yes or no) it explains so much about me... my fear of being late, my not wanting to be passed on the road, my not liking being arround a bunch of people I don't know well and my only having had two jobs (I hate change... and resisted it as much as I could... I'm not saying I never put out applications while I worked at other places, but the only job change was not really my choise... I had to have a job, and the store I was working at closed down). How will I deal with this? one day at a time. so far since we got the diagnosis things haven't been as stressful for me and Robert with school... the last two days I don't think I've yelled at him at all.
